Brett Cooper — He Was CANCELED For Refusing to Pay for His Date’s Hair Extensions…

What's your love language? >> Acts of vacation, words of confirmed flights, and definitely quality time abroad. >> [laughter] >> Quality time abroad. Yeah, got it. Yeah. So, needless to say, today we are talking about how the line between finding love and prostitution in Miami is very, very thin. Not to mention, we also need to talk about how women simply love to hate something just because other women like to hate it and because they say it's permissible.

And honestly, I think that's why we found ourselves in this dating predicament to begin with. Now, before we dive in, I want to say thank you guys so much for being here. Thank you for always jumping in the comment section and sharing your thoughts. Today, you're going to have to let me know if any woman has ever slid into your DMs asking you to pay for something as we're going to talk about today. So, just let me know.

But anyway, thank you for being here. Thank you for always liking and subscribing to the channel. If you want to stay up to date on everything we upload, make sure to ring that notification bell. All right, so just diving in, the reason for today's video, obviously, is a viral Tik Tok. So, take a look at this video that blew up over the weekend. >> So, here's an update on how dating is going in Miami as a 37-year-old single male.

I met this girl at the pool yesterday. We hung out for an hour and a half. Had a decent time, good time. And then, as we're leaving, I paid for her valet. And now, apparently, to see her again, I have to pay for her hair extensions. Presumably, I'll pay for her Uber tomorrow to the date. Obviously, I'll pay for dinner. All before we go on our first date. That is a hard pass for me. >> Now, that being a hard pass for me is putting it mildly compared to how I would respond if I was a man.

So, to sum this up because I know that there was some music behind that Tik Tok and he sped up his voice. What happened here is that this man, he is sharing a text exchange that he just had with a woman. He said he met this girl at the pool. They hung out, they chatted for about an hour and a half before they both decided to leave. When they were leaving, he paid for her valet, got her number, asked her out. They're talking about going to dinner, presumably, the next night.

And she texts him and says, "Good morning, sexy. I'd love to schedule to get my hair extensions done so I feel extra sexy for our date night." And so, obviously, this man takes that to mean that she is wanting him to pay for her hair extensions before they even go on their first date. Now, she is not, you know, coming out right and saying, "Hey, Venmo me $500 for hair extensions whatever it is in this economy." But, why else would she be texting him that?

Like, there's no reason to bring that into the conversation unless you were trying to bait the man into sending you, Zelling you, Cash Apping you, whatever we're doing all of that money before he can have access to you for the state. Now, obviously, this man is going, "No, I'm not into that." And because he did not read it in the TikTok, this was his response. This is what I can decipher from behind his head, but he says, "Ah, damn.

I'm not attracted to having to pay for basic stuff before we are dating or even go on a single date. That is what fat and ugly guys have to do. Not my thing." Which, honestly, is a banger of a response. Now, I am sure that you guys are sitting there because you are all common sense normal individuals and you're thinking, "Yeah, okay, he is right. That is insane. That is a no-go. Not the kind of woman for him." Like, the audacity of this woman to come out after meeting this man only once.

They've spent an hour together and asking for this. But, guys, this video did not blow up on TikTok because people agreed with him. And people are now, you know, talking about the state of womanhood in 2026, the audacity of females in America. No. No. Of course. Of course. No, it blew up because women on the internet were appalled by him. They were appalled by him and he got so trashed on this app that he deleted the video in its entirety.

And just listen to some of these responses that I compiled. So, one woman said, "He wants full access to the first-class lounge on an economy class ticket." Another she thought she ate with that one. 22,000 other women liked that. Another person said, "Pay up, pops." Another 22,000 likes on that comment. On another site that was talking about this viral exchange, a woman commented and said, "This is why I stay far away from men because I mean, like, he's mad that he has to pay for her hair."

Same men that chase after high-maintenance women as trophies, but hate maintaining them. Like getting a Porsche and getting mad at premium fuel and oil changes. That means you can't afford it. And I'm not even super high maintenance like that. I can buy my own weave and do my own nails and eyebrows, etc. Very much a DIY girly. But it pisses me off that men want us to be pretty, but don't want the hard work that comes with it.

The hard work, aka shelling out potentially thousands of dollars for hair extensions before a first date just to get access to a woman who, in your words, needs to be maintained. Like and because he is not interested in crossing that line, because he does not want to monetize the date, because he does not want to engage in prostitution, then I guess that means he's a dusty, musty, can't afford it man. Like this is just insane.

Like seriously, guys, I was reading all these comments, I was seeing all of the stitches and the reposts, I genuinely felt like I had entered the upside down. And just from there, the whole thing exploded, it got even worse. Just based on that video alone, women were harshly judging him. Just because of what they saw in front of that green screen where he was talking about the text messages. They were judging him and his looks and most importantly his age.

Because he talks about being 37, women did not believe that. Somebody said, "Yeah, it's giving 47." Another person said, "He looks 10 years older than my 40-year-old husband." And then another person said, "He's an average-looking guy at best." Now, here's the thing. I did some journalisming, as my friend Jack Mac would say, boots on the ground journalism, and I did what apparently these commenters were simply too lazy to do.

I clicked on his profile. I went to his page and listen, those 40-year-old man glasses, they were not doing him any favors. It looked like he picked them up in the back of Sam's Club or Costco, but I'm sorry. Looking at this man's profile, you cannot say, objectively, as a married woman, you cannot say that he is ugly or that he looks geriatric. I mean, his entire TikTok page, for better or for worse, is him working out and getting jacked.

And so, I am sorry, but let's just take this comment for example. This person, Eric Rivera Cooks, said, "I'm 44 and he looks way older than me." Okay, Eric Eric, this is you and this is him. No, he does not. What Kool-Aid are you people drinking? All of you are coping and seething because the internet hive mind in this comment section told you to. They convinced you because this man was not willing to Venmo a random chick $2,800, $1,500, again, whatever it is, that he is ugly and old and awful.

Because, I'm sorry, objectively, this guy actually doesn't look that bad. He doesn't look awful. He's fit. He's competing in CrossFit and Hyrox competitions. I went to his Instagram. He's posting pictures with his cute siblings that he's apparently close with. He's posting photos of him hanging out with his nieces and nephews. He's posting beautifully heartfelt tributes to his late mother who recently passed away. Like, other than the overwhelming amount I will be I will be honest there, the overwhelming amount of posed gym photos with the strange facial expressions.

Like, other than that, there aren't really a lot of glaring red flags. But, the girls and the gays on TikTok were adamant that he was too old and too gross to be acting in this way, to be drawing this line in the sand, and that he should know his age, he should know her worth. Like, remember the comment that we read earlier, "Pay up, pops." If he wants to have access to that type of woman, he is going to have to pay.

Ladies and gentlemen, the 22,000 people, however many people are commenting here, that is called prostitution. Ironically, on another side of the internet, while some women were saying that he was, you know, ugly and old, other women were saying that actually he was too fit, that he works out too much, he looks too good, and because of that, he must be gay. Just watch. >> all before we go on our first date. That is >> You're angry that she has standards because you were trying to bag the wrong team.

No man looks like that for women. >> I mean, genuinely, it's like men can't win. I mean, there's just so much to unpack in that 30-second Tik Tok. Number one, she's saying that a woman asking for money before first date is called having standards. I'm sorry, we have completely lost all value systems, all semblance of a moral compass if you think that is having standards. And then number two, this is like a backhanded compliment.

This woman is obviously upset that she does not have access to a man who looks like that, who has abs like that, who works out like that. And so she is saying, you are too fit, too good-looking, so you must be gay. No man looks like that when he's trying to attract a woman. Because I obviously would not be attracted to that. Yes, you are, ma'am. Yes, you and your cats certainly are. Sorry, that was a little bit rude, I'll take it down a little bit.

But anyway, they're saying that he's gay. Now, on that same note, somebody else commented on one of the original reposts talking about him. This woman, Batman's counselor, said, "I hope he finds the man of his dreams." Like literally, my whole response here is she's like, men can't win. Women are saying, you know, don't be fat, don't be ugly, go work out, be hot and rich for us. But actually, don't work out too much.

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That's his name, by the way, Benny. The internet started to pile on this poor man even more after two of his ex situationships, flirtationships, talking, whatever you want to call it, posted videos about him. And I will say, we're going to talk about both of them, but the first one kind of adds up. Let's watch. >> So, this guy that I was seeing is currently going viral because he posted a video of his text response to a girl like insinuating that she wanted him to pay for her extensions, and people are like eating him up in the comments.

And from someone that was like going on dates with him and seeing him for a couple months on and off, I can completely attest to like he thinks that he's the prize. Like one of our first conversations, he was like, "Oh, I have more Instagram followers than you." I said, "Okay. And?" I don't really care about that stuff. He's like, "Oh, it's just It's just an observation." Okay. We would go out and like girls would I don't know look in his direction and he's like, "Yeah, that happens a lot."

Um even if men looked at our table, he would be like, "They're probably sizing me up. They really They probably like my physique. They're probably" I'm like, "Yeah, they're looking at you. Mhm." And always like making a comment of like, "Yeah, everyone's like looking at me. Like it's just, you know, whatever." It's just It was always he's the prize, he's the best. >> All right. Now, obviously, I'm chuckling at this Tik Tok, but I do want to say it's important to note, you know, he could have been saying all of this and speaking in jest.

She could just be jumping on the bandwagon for attention because this is going viral, but also, I mean, just based on his social media, the man likes his body, he likes working out, he clearly wants attention based on the things that he's posting. So, who knows? She could be, you know, speaking totally honestly, he could be really into himself. But then, additionally, there was also this one. >> This man has literally been trying to take me out for 10 years.

And when I finally gave him a first date, he asked me to come over to his house. That was the first date. He asked me to come to his house. Bec- Mind you, it was a Tuesday, and he said, "I had a really hard week last Wednesday." Therefore, he wanted me to come to his house for first date. Please. Mind you, he's 40. Please. >> So, then, obviously, feeding into the rumors that he's not actually 37, that he looks older than his age, or he's lying about his age, whatever it is.

Anyway, so because of these two TikToks that have also racked up thousands of views, women online, the ones who have been in these comment sections, they feel validated in their dislike of this man because he's self-absorbed, because he invited a woman to his house on a first date instead of doing, I don't know, a grand dinner, something else. But, the most important thing, in my opinion, is that all of this hate FROM THE JUMP STEMMED FROM the fact that he would not pay for hair extensions for a random woman that he had met once.

And then suddenly, because of that, all of these tens of thousands, millions of women at this point online, agreed that this was the line in the sand. This was the example of having standards and knowing your worth. I mean, it is genuinely insane. And I guarantee, I get that maybe this is me being naive and hopeful, I don't know, you can call me out on this, I don't really care, but I believe that if you got a bunch of these commenters alone, and you were talking with them about this, they would not have that kind of automatic response.

But, they watch these videos, they open the comment sections, as we all do, that's the first thing we do when we're scrolling on social media. They see all of these other tens of thousands of women, you know, validating the girl who he's texting, demanding this kind of treatment, shaming men for not giving it, etc., etc. And so, they jump on board, they go, "Oh, well, obviously, yeah, I want that, too. I want somebody to pay for me."

Like, it is just grotesque. It is hive mind behavior, and apparently, it is becoming a bigger trend. Just watch this TikTok. >> I DM'd a girl and I said, "Hello or hi or something." And she said, "Hi. If you think I'm pretty, pay for my nails today. Thank you." Sent me her her Venmo. And I was like, and this is what I replied back. I said, "Uh I don't think you're that pretty." Then I said, "That's girlfriend treatment."

Then she said, "Haha, goodbye." I thought it was so funny. One, I don't even know you. Two, I've never met you. Three, how many people do you do this with? Huh? I'm not just one of these men that are going to throw cash at you, then thinking [music] me throwing cash at a stranger is going to get you to reply back? No. The only way you have access to my money is through me. I'm not just going to be sending you stuff like that.

>> And it's so funny because you see men like this and men and we're going to watch a couple of other videos, but men online are responding to this and they're saying, you know, we also know our worth. You know, we don't want you to just want us for our money, no matter how much money it is. That is our line in the sand. Well, simultaneously women are making the same argument, but about the most ridiculous things. Men are saying we want to get to know you.

We want you to like us for who we are, not just because of our money. And these women are saying, "Actually, it's really all about the money." And I'll know you think I'm pretty and I'll know that you're worth my time if you Venmo me for my nails, my hair, since I mean it is so disgusting, it is so materialistic. I'm embarrassed to be a woman when I see these types of videos. It's just awful. And on another point, I feel like we should just like close the loop here and bring it back to what James Charles literally just got canceled for on TikTok like a couple of weeks ago.

He was calling out the audacity that people have, specifically women on social media, to just ask people, ask famous people, ask rich people for money. No, hi, hello, how are you? I'm a big fan of yours. Not even following him, but DMing him a GoFundMe saying I really need you to send me money. Once again, I know the internet was all up in arms about what he said, but I thought James was correct. Like sorry, not sorry.

Watch my video on that if you want to learn more. But this is an epidemic of audacious, materialistic people is what I'm trying to say. And that point will be proven by this comment section because once again, in terms of the TikTok we just watched, the women were on the girls' side. Just look at these comments. One girl said in reply to this guy, "We like her a lot." Another one said, "She ate." Another one said, "I hope she got her nails paid for."

And then another girl said, "I love this tactic. Quick way to figure out if you're his dream girl." Once again, openly acknowledging that the only way a man is going to get his foot in the door is through money. Like I read that comment and I literally wanted to bash my head into a wall. Like great. Okay, so being somebody's dream girl, it's not about spark, a connection, her values, anything like that. No, it is about whether or not you find her physically attractive enough on social media to shell out cash before you even meet her.

Love is dead. Is Is romance dead? Based on these individuals we're talking about today, apparently it is. Now, I think that this is happening all over the world, honestly, but specifically, it seems like this is becoming a big problem in Miami, where our guy Benny lives. For example, one matchmaker who's big on X, she posted about this back in February and said, "What's up with the dating scene in Miami right now? I've spoken with about two potential Miami matchmaking clients this week who have said that women are asking for a rent allowance and a shopping budget on first date.

This is good for my business because I can screen gold diggers out, but on a personal level, WTF." And I have to say this is echoed by Miami man-on-the-street interviews. Just watch. >> What's your age? >> 31. >> Are you single? >> Yes, sir. >> What's the biggest problem you run into dating women in Miami now? >> These bust her ass millionaire trick ass [ __ ] be [ __ ] and poisoning these [ __ ] brains up.

Because every time they come around me and they see that I'm not finna trick on them and pay for their time and pay for their [ __ ] nails and pay for their whole lifestyle and I'm just actually trying to get to know the [ __ ] to see if she actually is even worthy of being around me and and worthy of my time. They look at it like I'm like, "Nigga, I just committed a felony." >> BECAUSE HE WON'T PAY FOR her whole life.

All right, anyway, we'll go on to the next one. >> What's the hardest part about dating in Miami? >> The hardest part about dating in Miami is all the girls selling [ __ ] It's not dating no more. Every girl is out here selling. My cousins, my sisters, man, niggers' mamas, everybody out here in Miami from the mamas to the daughters to the everybody selling [ __ ] >> What happened to finding your wife, meeting her out, taking her on a date, and then seeing if something real happens?

>> That [ __ ] don't exist no more. That [ __ ] is extinct, bro, like dinosaurs. Wives is like dinosaurs, the [ __ ] is extinct. You either buying the [ __ ] or you ain't getting it. >> Wives are like dinosaurs. That is the most abysmal yet iconic line coming out of this episode. Now, listen, I am sure that both of these men are being truthful and honestly, after reading the comments that we have read, after seeing the uproar over Benny drawing his line in the sand, I do not blame them for their language, but I do have to say the commenters did make a good point.

Sally, for example, on X said, "If this is the language with which you speak about the women around you, including your sisters, I'm shocked, insert sarcasm, that your dating scene is trashy AF. Higher class women don't date guys like this." Another person said, "Sad state of affairs when a nice guy like this can't find a good woman to settle down with." Touché. Again, they make great points, but removing those men and their language from the equation, the point about women and what they are demanding and asking for still stands.

Overall, dating has been monetized. And between the apps, which have, you know, turned dating into an addictive low-stakes game, and OnlyFans, which has turned everyone into low-class prostitutes, it was only a matter of time until this took hold. And then, what is possibly most important here is the content that women are consuming online. Like, it is no wonder that they feel encouraged to jump in and start expecting or demanding this.

Like, for example, take this video. And just so you know, this happens to be the woman who Benny allegedly invited over to his home. That date was not good enough. Again, I'm not here to shame the date. I don't know how I would respond in that situation. Maybe he was cooking her a nice dinner. She didn't think it was good enough. Maybe she thought he was unsafe. Weird, whatever. But this is the woman who was behind that Tik Tok and behind that date.

Just watch what she posted about 24 hours ago. >> So, yesterday I was on FaceTime and I got this gorgeous delivery. Surprise delivery, didn't expect it. He somehow knew I was in New York. And I was like, "Okay, cute." And then, on FaceTime he said, "Looks a little small." Uh I don't know about you, but I think this is beautiful. And I was like, I'm giddy as a pig in [ __ ] And he said, >> [clears throat] >> I think you deserve more.

I love me a petty man. I love me a toxic king. Okay. Thank you, sir. I would have much preferred the Zell, though. If you're going to buy me $500 flowers, send me 500 as well. And And y'all want to hear this this follow-up. Read it out, though. He said, and I quote, Hello, woman. I don't miss you at all. The blue flowers came with a I miss you and you're amazing note. >> [clears throat] >> He said again, Hello, woman.

I don't miss you at all. And I wish I had the opportunity to fight you. I hope those flowers going to make it on TikTok, though. Also, I regret the day I put your massive feet in my mouth. >> [laughter] >> Your main hop. My main hop? Signed, him truly. So, I'll just end it there because I think you guys get the point. Like, it's no wonder that you and our guy, Benny, didn't work out. Because what you apparently wanted was a roster full of men who are financially competing against each other and for you.

Clearly, that is not Benny's speed. He does not want to be the man on FaceTime watching another man send you flowers and then feeling compelled to send $500 worth of flowers just to secure more of your time. And so, now she's posting all of that on TikTok, smirking, excited about it, sharing this with her audience of women who will become emboldened to demand it or expect that from the men around them. And honestly, why wouldn't they?

They're seeing it work. They're seeing women get $500 worth of flowers from one guy, $200 worth of flowers from another. Their nails are getting paid for, but they're seeing this come out of Miami, where everything is just delusional and upside down. So, why wouldn't they start leaving comments like she ate and I love this strategy and I know my worth. I don't want to deal with these broke-ass, dusty, whatever's. I mean, it's gross, but based on what we're seeing on social media, it makes sense why it is compounded.

And then, add to that, you know, the men online see all of these videos. They watch this unfold, even if they have not experienced it personally. And so then, they choose to opt out of dating altogether, which is the least shocking thing of the century. Because if you were a man watching all of this unfold, why would you subject yourself to this? And then, guess what happens next? Men and women, they continue to drift further apart.

They end up resenting each other more. The sexes are at odds, like they are right now. And so with that, I guess I should say, "Happy Pride Month." It's no wonder everybody is gay. Um All right, so all right to All right, okay. Um You can do this, Max. Put on vacation for a few days. All right, so to sum this up, um