Brett Cooper — NYC Women Are Paying $100 to Meet Men | Episode 141

All right, so a certain post on X broke the entire platform yesterday and it was this from an account called short squeeze. This person wrote breaking the New York Times found the dating for women in NYC is so brutal that some dating events are charging women $100 and men $0 and the attendance ratio is still three to one women to men. And that got almost 11 million views in 24 hours. An AI image or not, if you guys are watching on YouTube you can see that this is very clearly AI generated but the red pill bros immediately took this information as a win.

Just reveling in how much men now have all of the power in the dating market. They have control. And listen, all of that is fine and dandy. Get excited, be happy, but I just have to say it really does feel like a certain sect of the internet just wants men and women to hate each other. They profit off of that. A healthy, fruitful society where men and women live in harmony and work together, it just doesn't seem like part of their plan.

Let me explain. Now, before we dive into this story, obviously you guys can see I am in a new space. We officially have our new set. This has been something that I wanted to do for many months now. Between babies and holidays and sickness and ice storms, this got delayed. I wanted to have this for the one-year anniversary of the show, but a bit delayed. But anyway, new space. I absolutely love it. I'm so happy to be recording in this new studio.

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So, stay tuned. All right, diving into today's story, let's see how many people on X I can piss off today. Now, the first and most obvious reaction to this post and this article was that men do not go out anymore because the women do not look like the AI generated hotties that were in this post. Somebody said, "Because they all look more like this." And here's another AI generated image which obviously does not look like the one attached to that post.

And yes, I will admit I am guessing that dating in New York City looks more like this than the hot AI-generated girls in mini dresses in that tweet. You are living in a city that elected Mondani, after all. One guy on Reddit, this was in regards to these dating events, said, "I don't go because I meet hotter women on the apps. Every single time I went to these events, it is always filled with women who I am not attracted to.

Maybe like women in the pink hats." This comment was also hilarious. The average lady looking for a date at these events and it is the Journo that was pressing Sydney Sweeney on her controversial jeans ad, of course. I do want to push back a little bit on this, because when I was in New York a couple of weeks ago, I went to Evie Magazine's end of Fashion Week party, and I just have to say, gentlemen, it was chock-full of conservative-leaning hot women.

Hot, hot women. Tall, like the Empire State Building, dressed to the nines, great conversation. So, they do not all look like SJWs coming out of Portland or Seattle. Anyway, for context, this did not come from a New York Times article. This actually started with a New York Times podcast on Sunday about how Tinder is done, dating apps are over, swiping is over, and they had on a few of these reporters and columnists to discuss what singles in the city are doing instead.

And one of these reporters talked about dating events. Let's take a listen. This is what sparked that tweet. >> I went to an event the following night, and it could not have been more different from the first event. >> What was it? Yeah, so I heard about this second event through a friend, and it was a sort of wine mixer. I think what really got me interested in this particular event was the fact that tickets for women were $100, and tickets for men were free.

Oh my god, I think my soul just left my body. >> [laughter] >> Why Why was it so much more for women than for men? I mean, I think the truth is that there are a lot more women out there interested in showing up for these dating events, and it's not as easy to get men to show up. therein >> the issue that now entire internet is debating. So, for a little more context, this interview actually was really interesting. I like the style of it.

It kind of feels like old radio in a way. It bounces back and forth between this interview in a podcast format and then actual recordings from this reporter being at these various dating events. But, the event in question with $100 for women, $0 for men, it was hosted by a wine influencer. It was at her house in Brooklyn. They had wine tastings and games and snacks. And he described it as kind of like a intimate dinner party meets faster from a party because they were playing drinking games and that sort of thing.

And by the way, like I love this entire idea. Like you guys know, I've talked about this a lot, but one of my goals is to be able to host and put on events for you guys, for you guys to go and mingle and maybe date or meet friends or just you know, I don't know, come share some common values and enjoy a fun evening out. And yes, I am still working on that. I wanted to put it together last year, but between starting the new show and businesses and the baby and the whole thing, it just seemed like a little too much to tackle.

But, I'm still working on it. And my point is, I love this style of bringing a group together with a common activity or a common interest. Remember, back on comment section, and actually this was in New York City as well, I did an episode years ago on that group called Single in the City. And they had these dating events where first responder guys would show up and any woman that was like interested in dating a fireman or a police officer would come.

And every one of her events would sell out. Like people loved the stuff. Of course, libs were calling it problematic because it's like, why are you glorifying police officers? WHATEVER, YADA YADA YADA. BUT, THOSE events can be very successful and they can be very engaging. Anyway, the point is, I went off on a tangent there. The point that went viral in that podcast was that it was free for men to go and yet still the ratio of women to men was not good.

And according to other Reddit posts on this subject, this is not uncommon in New York City. One person wrote, "This is only 14 days ago in a subreddit. Everything marketed as a straight singles event usually winds up being 90% women and 10% men. Go with an open mind and low expectations." Which honestly seems to describe the modern dating landscape in a nutshell. Anyway, in regards to all of this, there is a certain sect of people online who are reveling in this information because in their minds this officially means it's a man's world, the women have fallen, they have been disgraced, and that this is clear victory for men.

One account posted, "You're telling me the last 15 years of women saying men are good enough isn't working out for them? LMFAO." And I mean, touche. You're not wrong. Another person commented and said, "The dirty secret of today's sexual marketplace is that men with good looks and game are having a field day. They have their choice of great women who cannot demand commitment from them. The sexual revolution has made women all go for the same top 20% of men, and if you are in the top 20%, it is truly a golden age."

Now, there are so many comments, and you'll see this, where they're acting like this is all a newfangled issue, like, you know, men are back on top. But I look at this and I'm like, if we're talking about the top 20% of men in terms of, you know, attractiveness and success, money, whatever it is, I feel like it's always been a golden age for them. They've been getting girlfriends, they've been dating around, they've been getting married.

Obviously, there have still been issues between men and women, but it seems like that core sect of men, just like the top 20% of women, they kind of skate through all of this. Like, how is this new? Anyway, I digress. Moving on, somebody else said, "Foids paying cash to meet men, men still don't care to show up. Truly the dark ages, and it's all women's fault. I have no sympathy for anyone involved except the bros."

And again, like, I am not disputing at all that women and feminism helped cause this. Like, I am not disputing that women after round, they broke hearts, they spent decades telling men that they are worthless, that masculinity is toxic, that they like that obviously had an impact on male-female relations on the modern dating landscape. But I would also argue, just as an aside again, hopefully I don't piss people off, the dating events are naturally a bit more up women's alley.

So like, the fact that men aren't showing up isn't super surprising to me. Like, especially because women often travel in groups. I feel like that's a joke in rom-coms, that they like they travel in a pack. Like, it becomes a social event. They go with a bunch of girlfriends, they make a night out of it. And like, I highly doubt that their male counterpart peers are doing same thing. Like I highly doubt that they would choose to go to a singles dating event versus just going and grabbing a beer and watching the game.

Can I get what I'm saying? If you want to be smug about all of this and point to feminism and say that it's all women's fault, like that's fine. Like again, that makes sense. But this can't be victory. This can't be the end of the road and we're going to get to that. Myron Gaines from Fresh and Fit obviously had a response and he posted, "Yep, I predicted this 6 years ago. Female desperation is rising and I'm here for it."

Now, first of all, before we get into the rest of his reaction, I feel like Myron is intentionally slanting this. Like women are showing up in droves and freaking out and being so anxious and in anguish, but I don't know if a dating event with 15 women and five men is really a great representation. And those are the actual numbers from the event that the New York Times reporter went to. 15 women. Like that is what we're dealing with here.

And I also think that women are basically doing what they've always tried to do, which is date. And people have been calling women desperate for an eternity. Again, this is not some new phenomenon. Like a desperate woman is an age-old trope. Like there were desperate women in Jane Austen novels that were made fun of. Like again, not new. However, I will concede that maybe this desperation is taking new forms. Like they are now stealing men's salads at Sweetgreen for crying out loud.

Just watch this TikTok. Guys, the dating scene is getting so bad in New York City that I am seeing on TikTok there are girls going into Midtown during the week and stealing finance bro's salads for lunch. And then looking their name up from the salad order on LinkedIn and then messaging them through there and being like, "Hey, I'm so glad so sorry I grabbed your salad. Like let me just make it up to you and buy you a new one."

And that's how they're like sliding it, which honestly smart. Why are we stealing men's salads? Like that's Why can't they just come up to us at a bar? Like Okay, well, they're not coming up to you at a bar because number one, rejection is awful, but also they don't want to be me-tooed. And for the last however many years, everything has become digital. Anyway, that's a totally different rant. We've talked about that epidemic before.

But like there has got to be a simpler way than stealing a man's salad. But in line with what we are talking about, somebody commented on this Tik Tok and said, "I think that this is a result of all of the man hatred that has been spewed over the last few years, TBH. I think that it is important to hold men accountable and vice versa, but hating men became a trend, which is why I think that good men do not feel comfortable approaching women the way that they used to, which I would agree with."

Anyway, I will let Myron continue because this is really where it becomes a little bit ridiculous and gloaty to me. So then, he posts this. Again, this is all in response to that one tweet about the New York Times. So he says, "I called this 6 years ago. The red pill explosion woke millions of men to modern women's games. For a decade, average guys got ignored, ghosted, and treated like options. Now, they're done." And I would honestly like I would blame Call Her Daddy for a lot of that.

Like the entire premise of Call Her Daddy was treat men like men treat women. Like play the games, sleep around, hookup culture, all of that. So, Alex Cooper, I think you're to blame. Anyway, he goes on and he says, "Now, they're done. They'd rather grind video games, stack cash, hit the gym, or just live free than blow thousands chasing entitled unappreciative women in loud bars or on apps. Men are fed up with the disrespect, the hypergamy, the attitude.

The men going their own way red pill trend isn't slowing down, it's accelerating. Year after year, more men will opt out. Women ignored the warning signs, and now they are living with the consequences." I talk about this extensively in my second book, Why Women Deserve Even Less, which is a sequel to my first book, Why Women Deserve Less, link below, which is just comical. But like okay, again, seriously, I understand your analysis on why this happened.

I sympathize with that. I get it. I can point to it. But like are we really seeing this as a victory? That this is like a good thing? It seems totally backwards and completely unhealthy to claim that the consequence is actually the positive way forward. And thankfully, thankfully we do not live in a completely deranged society because many commenters agreed. Like one guy said, "You say this as if it is a good thing.

Congratulations on doing your part to drive a wedge between men and women." Another person said, "6 years later and the master plan is opt out and play video games. Revolutionary. If your grand solution to modern dating is retreat and resentment, that is not power, that is avoidance with branding. I love that comment. And let's be honest, it is branding because this is his business. What is happening now is profitable for his business and the messages that he espouses.

This comment was just wild and remarkable, so I had to read it. But this person said, "You have correctly diagnosed the red game, but the men going their own way movement is a fatal prescription. Opting out to grind video games and stack cash is the path of exile, a retreat masquerading as true independence. By withdrawing, you avoid the pain and friction of the modern dating market, but you abdicate the throne entirely.

A true king doesn't surrender to the chaos or hide in digital comfort, he burns the false map, masters the laws of the territory, and builds an unbreakable frame. Do not mistake a comfortable cage for a kingdom." I love that. Take that comment to heart. Back to the point, the problem is, in my opinion, is that I think that these commenters and myself, people like us, and these red pill bros are operating from completely different premises.

Like the commenter that just left that reply, he still believes in conquering challenges, in making society better, in getting married, in building strong families. And this whole red pill movement, the men going their own way, they just seem concerned with tearing it all down and essentially getting revenge. Like they're angry and obviously again, we can all understand why. I think all of us get it, but their solution is to burn it all down and opt out.

That to them is success, but at what cost? Cuz that does not seem like a happy, healthy, fruitful, productive life. One woman who was brave enough to jump in his comment section said, "This kind of mindset might feel empowering in the short term, but it is built on resentment more than reality. Yes, dating is messy right now. Yes, some men feel overlooked, but turning that into women deserve less just keeps everyone stuck in a cycle of blame instead of growth.

Opting out is a choice, so is self-improvement. So is learning how to build healthier dynamics without framing half the population as the enemy." And also, this is such an important lesson to learn even outside of dating in this whole issue that we're going through. Like as humans, it is much easier to just shut down and walk away and avoid things when they are hard or when things are painful. It is easier to drop out of that course that you're worried about flunking in college.

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So, back to the story. The point I'm trying to make here is that yes, we get it. Be smug all you want. Be happy about this, but this is not a victory for society. It is not a victory for anything other than you and your business and your brand. And interestingly, what this New York Times reporter found in his tiny dating event might not be indicative of the entire dating landscape. For example, take this Tik Tok. You're a pretty successful woman trying to date in New York City, you might genuinely be cooked.

People talk about how it's the greatest city in the world for dating. For guys, yeah. There's a 70/30 split. Everyone here has a college degree. Women are smarter than men these days. For being one of the most diverse, beautiful cities in the world, a lot of the guys here are very bland. You want a finance bro? You want a traditional like 5'7" douchebag? Go for it. But then the dudes that do well here with women have all the options in the world and have massive egos.

And they're from be a paradox where as a successful attractive woman, you have all the options, but how many of those options do you really want and do you want to commit and would want to commit to you? And I think a lot of women really want guys to be respectful and be confident and go up to them in person, but it's not happening. And because so much of dating is online dating, you get in this cycle of all the options in the world and yet no options at all.

>> So, similarly, he is arguing that men, especially that top percentage of men, hold all the power in New York City, that they have all of the options and it might not be as great for women. However, some some, that's the caveat, women in the comments did not agree that they were totally cooked. Like one woman said, "It's just as amazing for women. What do you mean?" Another woman said, "I don't know. Personally, I've had a great time dating here and I don't think I'm wildly attracted lol and most of it has been in person.

Was only on the apps for a few months pre-vaccine. You just have to leave the house." But that's the hard thing. People don't want to leave the house. They want to be on their phones 24/7. Another person said, "Really, I've had three NYC boyfriends and they all wanted to get married and I didn't want to. Would rather be single," she says. But Then course like that comment shows there in lies the issue. And if men are dealing with countless women who do not want to settle down, who are just interested in dating around, who are girlbossing in their New York City cubicles, who are getting microblades, I don't know, whatever you guys are doing, then yeah, they will probably opt out or they will move and just change dating markets.

But the point is, what I'm trying to say here is that I I feel I feel like I feel like I say this in every single dating episode, but it's not a black and white issue. Some men and women in different dating markets are still thriving, but it is a hard market regardless. It's just like the real estate market in 2026, it is complicated and it is complex. But what does seem to be an objective truth at this point is that the red pill bros, the men going on their own way movement, whatever that is, they are never happy.

Nothing will please them because honestly, just like liberal feminist women, all they do is complain and desire to hate the opposite sex. No matter what we do, they will find a reason to be upset. They are even complaining over Evie Magazine trying to teach women how to have better sex and better please their husbands, literally. Now, in case you missed that entire controversy happening on X right now, Evie Magazine's newest print issue, they do a couple of print issues every single year.

This next issue is going to be all on sex for married women. And here's the cover right here. Obviously, this got a lot of people fired up in many ways, but in a recent post they explained why they're doing this. So, I want to read this to you and then show you the response to just show you how ridiculous and hypocritical it really is. So, this was a letter from Britney HuGoBoom, who is the editor in chief and the founder of Evie, and she said, "Dear readers, this is the first of many themed issues and it is the most ambitious thing we have ever done.

For years, a recurring plea has shown up in our DMs, our emails, and our survey responses. Young married women are asking us for real, honest, and detailed guidance on sex. A reader once wrote to us and said, 'Progressives own sex positivity but abandoned marriage and monogamy a long time ago. Conservatives own marriage but can't bring themselves to be sex positive.' That stuck with us because it's true and it perfectly describes the gap that millions of women are living in.

Many young women, especially from traditional religious families, have come into womanhood without learning anything about sex. They save themselves for marriage and then they realize that the culture that told them to wait had absolutely nothing to say about what comes after the altar. They grew up with negative associations to intimacy, but were expected to become uninhibited the moment that they said, "I do." We believe that sex is one of the most important foundations to a thriving marriage.

You cannot call something sacred and then refuse to take it seriously. Now, she goes on There were other parts of it that were also controversial to the detractors online, but like to me, what Evie is doing, it sounds like a good and healthy thing. Because for years, young women have been bombarded with sex-positive content. However, it was not positive in the slightest. It was not beautiful or healthy at all, in my opinion.

It was explicit and gross advice from Call Her Daddy and Teen Vogue, who encouraged women to sleep around like men and play the dating games and find your perfect non-binary queer vibrator, which was a literal article that was released on Teen Vogue. Meanwhile, on the right and for girls from more traditional families or who are more traditional, the advice is always, you know, save yourself, embrace traditionalism, embrace purity.

But again, what happens when you get married? Well, and even if you aren't a virgin when you get married, maybe you're still looking for pointers. Maybe you don't really know what you're doing. So, where do you look? Where do you go for that advice? Certainly not Cosmo or Teen Vogue or freaking Alex Cooper. Hopefully, it's not porn or smut, even though that has become far more common for women, unfortunately. So, this is a niche that should be filled.

This should make a lot of people happy. Now, some people responded to this and said, you know, this is weird, mass media should not be talking about this. Go talk to your mentors or your friends, older women. But this is also just such a personal and intimate thing, obviously. Like some people are not comfortable having those conversations. They might not have access to individuals who could help them. Mary Morgan, for example, wrote a hilarious and painfully accurate response to that, and she said, "Instead of clapping back with they should go to older women for advice, not a magazine, first ask yourself why young couples do not have trusted older married mentors in the first place.

The average boomer has shitty advice on pretty much every topic, but they are especially hopeless when it comes to dating, sex, marriage. They are the free love divorce generation, after all. The average boomer lady is going to tell a younger woman to marry her vibrator. It is that bad." Now, moving on from that and going into the other detractors, I'm looking at the landscape of the internet. My for you page, my algorithmics, and I'm like, "Aren't people online always complaining about marriages these days, about how marriages are loveless and sexless?

So, why would men even get involved in that? Why would they engage in something that is so terrible and barren?" And this magazine, this issue, is here to help. But no, guys, because it is still a problem. And I guess as I'm doing this episode, I should have also included the red pill women because of course Pearl was one of the first people to jump in Evie's comment section. She said, "Ha ha ha ha ha ha ha, please keep going."

And then she said, "I love how hard it tried e-girls fight to be more and more naked." And like, I don't even care, but how is that like a response to the very valid argument and reasoning that Evie laid out? Like part of being trad, I would assume, I would hope, is being married and having a healthy, happy sex life with your husband. And I think that is what Evie is trying to encourage and help young women do. Another commenter said, "Spoiler, there are no traditional women.

They are all just like us men. Let's stop the shraid." Okay, women are because they want to have better sex with their husbands? Because they want to learn how to please their husbands and be comfortable and understand their bodies? Like, okay, you all genuinely just want to be mad about everything. That is what I've taken away from this entire situation. It doesn't matter if somebody's trying to fix the problem that you've laid out, that you yell about online 24/7, you just want to be pissed off.

I mean, you go on and on and on about how sexless, loveless marriages are a problem in America, that they lead to divorce, and divorce is bad, and divorce makes men resent women, and why should men get married in the first place? Everything is terrible. Oh my gosh, if only somebody, if only somebody was offering a solution and trying to make things better and healthier. Like you people, you commenters, you offer no solutions except retreating into a resentful, lonely isolation where men and women continue to hate each other more every single day.

And that is essentially the exact same thing that liberal feminist women did that started this entire problem. And look how that turned out. Not just for society, but also for them. They opted out of dating, they became angry lesbians, they got six cats, and you mocked them for it. So, maybe just take a second and look in the mirror. None of what you are encouraging, what you are claiming is this victory is helping normal people.

Normal people who want love and a good partner and normal things. So, I don't know about you, but this outrage-laden man versus woman world is [snorts] not a world that I want to be part of. So, I am opting out of that. Thank you very much. Big news. We were driving back from church and we looked over and there was a hut full of piglets. My mom wants you to have an aesthetically pleasing [music] farm vlog. So, you are going to have one.