Brett Cooper — Why Megyn Kelly Weighed In on Elon's Baby Mama Drama | Episode 10

so I think that there is a Reckoning with modern women right now especially on the right I think that there's a lot of people in general if you just go on social media that don't like women I'm sure that you see those takes a lot they genuinely just don't seem to appreciate or even enjoy women in the slightest there's a lot of people who can't figure out how women should fit into modern society you know are we working are we being stay-at-home mom should concessions be made for women who are in public office and are in government do we all want to go Frolic in fields and make sourdough and have home Deads or is that what we should be doing there is just a lot of online discourse and debate about all of our lives and I think that a lot of this was broken open over the past couple of weeks especially with the Ashley stclair and the patriarchy Hannah drama that unfolded last week and if you guys missed that my best friend Amir and I talked about that when he came on the show last week but basically people are wondering if either of these women were genuine in their desire for a more traditional life because Ashley stclair posted one thing online she said one thing online and then obviously did another she said that she wanted to traditional life that she just wanted a husband and a couple of kids in a homestead and then ended up having a child with the richest man in the world and is now a single mother times two trying to figure that out and literally tweeting at him to get his attention because he's not responding to her lawyers or her you have patriarchy Hannah who literally built a brand off of being this Christian conservative stay-at-home mom of 14 children with her husband Tony literally shaming women on a daily basis for not being as virtuous or traditional as she was and then it all ended up being fake it was all a sham she had no children whatsoever she was not married to a man named Tony she had no grounds to stand on whatsoever and then this past weekend just a couple of days ago we had Laura lomer on X attacking housewife Jessica Krauss for getting involved in politics which is just so inconsistent to me because I thought we were supposed to celebrate women like Jessica Krauss who stayed at home with their kids who chose to sacrifice parts of their career to be there for their children and now years later as her children are grown they are older they're able to be invol involed in her work she has stepped into this fascinating role as this blogger and this journalist she's at the White House all the time I thought that that was something that we could celebrate but I guess not because she's being belittled and called just a housewife as another example of this chaos you have some people celebrating the fact that Trump has surrounded himself with women like Caroline levit and Pam Bondi and Tulsi gabard and more and then you have other people on the right who are saying that that is disgraceful and that that means that he is a weak man it literally feels like we can't win and the right is just screaming at each other 24/7 about women and about who we should be and it feels like everyone just has something to say about women right now in this cultural moment where you know feminism TM has lost its hold and in my opinion as a young woman I think that a lot of this lacks nuance and I think that all of it came to a head last week in a really crazy and beautiful way when Megan Kelly made a now very viral tweet a tweet that possibly dipped its toe into the idea that women could have it all and the entire ire World on X freaked out but I actually think that people have deeply misunderstood what she was trying to communicate with that tweet and that it actually begs for a much deeper analysis which of course rarely happens on X rarely happens on social media in general because it's just a lot of screaming and black and white takes so today I want to talk about that I want to talk about the ideas that both the left and the right have been pushing on women and what we should actually be seeking instead of just trying to have it all which spoiler alert Megan Kelly was sort of trying to explain but before we dive into that make sure that you are subscribed to this Channel and that you like this video If you enjoyed it and of course if you want to stay up to date on all of our episodes make sure to ring that notification Bell and if you want adree episodes if you want a weekly advice video called dear Brett that I've just started recording you can go to Cooper confidential which is my subscriber only platform and if you guys are interested in merch you can find all of that Below in the description all right so before we dive into my analysis and why I think all of this is just so crazy we obviously have to read mean Tweet now this Tweet now has over 4.1 million views but she said on February 17th ladies it is possible to make your own money have your own career pay for your own Swanky New York City Apartment Etc and find a man who loves you and wants to have and raise kids with you and wants to be with you and only you the only thing stopping you is your decision to settle for less that's kind of a harsh ending and people lost their damn minds and as you can see it racked up millions and millions of views millions of comments and quote tweets she was getting ripped to shreds on X and people were saying that this was a feminist rallying cry that she was a fake conservative that she had no grounds to stand on that this was terrible advice that she was giving women and women themselves were slamming her and accusing her of parting something that was unrealistic New York Post wrote about this the next day Megan Kelly stirs controversy with her take on balancing kids in a career which in my opinion that really wasn't what the Tweet was about but again we're going to get into that at a later time but let me tell you the response that the New York Post covered in their article was emotional these were some of the things women had said this woman said I am a month out from giving birth and I have a toddler I can assure you I'm not in Boss babe mode I'm surviving even with house help another person said I remember Megan admitting that she doesn't cook during a Thanksgiving Show episode so what do they eat does her husband cook this puts very unrealistic pressures on most mothers another person said I don't consider forgoing a career and choosing to be a stay-at home Mom and Mother to be less which again Megan Kelly did not say we're going to get into that I promise in other words said ladies it is also possible that you'll win the lottery adjust your expectations and enthusiasm and drive accordingly realistic expectations are better here than engagement farming feminist talking points another person said who the f relates to this A Swanky New York City Apartment please stop we already did this whole thing in the late 2000s and it didn't work out another person said not wanting to be a boss babe is not settling for Less my kids were raised by me not a nanny or a daycare it is okay to find a man who wants to provide for his family but here's my question when did she say that that was not okay that was not the point of the tweet this was not a personal attack on any of you or your life choices in fact the Tweet was in my mind about choices and about making choices that are good for you and your values and your family choices that are good for only you because it is your life and your decision you have the freedom to raise your family to be the kind of mother that you want to be and that is what Megan Kelly was talking about and now I understand the women are testy right now I am testy right now there are a lot of people that are trying to Define what women should be or what we should do who women even are that's been a debate that we've literally had to have for the last four years obviously women are going to be riled up and of course what a woman is should not 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and emotional and often pick fights against other women which I think is what we're seeing online but I just want you to read Megan Kelly's tweet again remove emotion remove this idea that she is attacking you let's just read the words that she wrote and think about the context of what was going on on social media when she posted this again ladies it is possible to make your own money to have your own career pay for your own Swanky New York City Apartment Etc she's not saying that is what you need to have and also find a man who loves you wants to have and raise kids with you and wants to be with you and only you the only thing stopping you is your decision to settle for less Megan was not calling out normal women just trying to get by in America women who are totally fine and happy happy living in their Suburban Lives who do not want the Swanky New York City Apartment women who are stay-at-home moms and are very happy with that that that was their dream this tweet my friends this x post whatever we're calling it now this was a direct response to Ashley stclair in the whole Elon Musk baby daddy baby mama drama that was going on and it was more of a conversation on not sacrificing your values than anything else whatever those values might be and that makes this tweet applicable to anyone and she explained this context later that day on her show just take a listen this woman is accusing Elon of impregnating her and not I guess negotiating with her on the care of the child or at least not to the point where she's happy with the negotiation all I can think as I look at this is your life is the way it is because you decided it would be because of your choices Madam you can have a Swanky New York apartment you could earn money and actually wind up renting one yourself you could also find a man who wants to marry you and raise children with you and who won't have other women in his life at the same time all of this is available to you you do not have to make a choice where you try to bang the billionaire to get his baby so that he'll put you up in some lavish New York City apartment and take care of you for the rest of his life and then be shocked shocked when he doesn't actually want to have a relationship with you and the only way you can maybe get him to respond to you is via tweet I'm sorry but again you made choices they were very bad ones I mean listen some people don't like Megan Megan did not miss here at all this was completely factual I say it all the time your life is your fault and that doesn't have to be a negative thing and right now Ashley stclair is dealing with the consequences of her own actions now she has a beautiful new child and she's trying to protect this child but there are consequences to her actions and what Megan was trying to say is it didn't need to be this way she had a career she was very well connected I'm sure she was around a lot of men she could have found somebody who wanted to to marry her and raise a family with her like she tweeted about for years on end but that's not how it worked out and instead she now has a child with a man who historically very publicly has never committed to anyone ever like it's very very public he probably knew that going into this situation and so this tweet that everyone got so riled up about is specifically calling out the fact that she allegedly got this expensive Swanky apartment paid for that she's being seen and photographed in all of these fancy clothes you know like head to toe Balenciaga is what I've heard that she acquired that by having a child with this billionaire who won't commit to her or anyone else for that matter and obviously not being able to contact the father of your child is awful and messy especially for this innocent child but this man's history with dating and relationships and Parenthood is well on display and as Megan says I'm sorry but this was a choice and she is also saying in addition to kind of you know that sub tweet that dig at Ashley she is also saying women and Ashley this is not the only option you have other choices and Ali Beth Stucky who is a good friend of mine and she is one of the biggest Christian conservative female podcasters and mother is living proof of that and so I asked her for her take take a listen you don't have to sacrifice your morals and jump at the opportunity to get in a sexual relationship with a powerful rich man just because you want to be rich and I'm not saying that was necessarily Ashley's motivated uh motivations I don't think we know that for sure but I think she was trying to say women like if you want money and you want the ritzy apartment this is not the way to do it and it could be possible that you get all of those things one day now another great example of this type of woman that you guys might know is Britney Martinez hugoboom who is the founder of Eevee magazine she also runs 28 Wellness which is the hormone tracking and period tracking app and she is married to this man that she is deeply in love with that she has been with since they were young and she had this idea for a more traditional women's magazine she wanted this health app because there wasn't anything like that on the market and she found a way to pursue something that she loved and that she was passionate about and build it with the person that she loved while also being a mother and being very engaged in their life and also finding massive massive success and she didn't have to compromise her values in order to do that and she's not the only example of that I have so many examples in my personal life on all different scales of success and different Lifestyles and different things that they're pursuing but the common denominator is that they are living in accordance to their values and they're not compromising that at any turn and finding success obviously does not mean having the lavish Swanky New York City Apartment it can be anything and that's different for everyone that is up to you to decide but that again is what Megan is saying you can find that success that you want and not compromise your values when it comes to the things that mean the most to you like marriage and family you can get the expensive apartment or the nicer house or the great job and not do it through child support you can get social clout and higher social standing or more opportunities without sleeping your way there which is what people are alleging that actually St Clair did so again not trying to beat a dead horse here but you can achieve your dreams and build the life that you want and simultaneously not compromise your values without compromising your belief in traditional family traditional marriage and in my mind this point this point that Megan is making is a very clear and objectively good statement for anyone to hear but as you guys obviously saw from that New York Post article many did not see it that way and many thought that she was paring this idea this very leftwing femin idea that women can and should have it all but where did that even come from and what does that mean I think we need to understand that before we can circle out this argument now that term you know women having it all can you have it all was popularized in 1982 by the longtime Cosmopolitan editor Helen Gurley Brown and she wrote a book entitled having it all love success sex and money which was basically instructing women at the time how to succeed in the workforce and still balance it all how to have great romance and a sex life in and make all the money and you know climb the corporate ladder and do all the things cuz she was the Cosmopolitan editor so that is kind of where this term came from but she also was not the first one to use that term as a New York Times article from 2015 acknowledges the term having it all at least as it applies to women and work has a relatively limited pedigree Ruth Rosen a scholar who was written extensively on the history of feminism told me that you can't find much archival evidence of the phrase before the tail end of the 1970s and even then it wasn't so much a feminist Mantra as a marketing pitch directed toward Wards the well-healed liberated consumer by 1980 2 years before Brown's book Joyce Gabriel and Betty Baldwin published having it all a practical guide to managing a home and a career true to its promise Gabriel and Baldwin's book offer straightforward tips on how a working mother might make the most of her scarce time so I to do two things at once the author's advice like letting your nail polish set while you blow dry your hair which I'm sorry is the worst advice I have ever heard your nail polish will be all in your hair or maybe these authors do not have as much hair as I do because that would be a recipe for disaster anyway that was just decide but they go on and they say women's magazines and Madison Avenue might have been selling the concept but it was after Brown's book landed on the bestseller list Rosen said that the phrase gathered real cultural momentum becoming a shorthand for having kids and a career so as you heard from there the phrase took off and as they wrote being Shand for children and a career and doing everything perfectly and having all the things and having all the success that you want with no compromises whatsoever because you're a woman and you deserve to have it all but the thing that is so ironic about this entire story is that Helen didn't even want having it all to be the title and she famously did not have children she was not a mother she did not even believe that children would fit into her framework of what success looks like for women and the instruction that she was giving to these young women New York Times goes on and they say there is then no small absurdity in the fact that Brown's Vision omitted children only six of the 462 pages of having it all mention them and brown has a hard time disguising her suspicion that children aren't so seamlessly integrated into her program aditt her own lack of firsthand knowledge on the subject she quotes several of her time starved mother friends as authorities and sounds mildly flx that anyone would willingly undertake such an Endeavor here we go this is where it all came from ladies and gentlemen this is the beginning of the end of of you know girl bossing that's where it all started quote isn't that a hard cell if you ever heard one so it's so funny to because this whole ideology this whole girl boss push the things that my mom dealt with in the 80s that she had to push back against when so many of her friends and her siblings were gawking at her for being a stay-at-home mom for saying yeah I don't really know if I want this S I just want to be a mother this this ideology is what she was pushing back against and it's so ironic because we know it to kind of include motherhood and be about balancing motherhood but it actually excluded motherhood from the get-go and we sort of just assumed that it would fit in which only set up women for decades of problems in my opinion because from there came the belief that women needed to have it all and that actually it was our government and men that were holding us back like we we can't have it all because because of the patriarchy because men have all of these expectations of us and we can't have it all because the government won't allow every single woman no matter your age no matter how far along you are to get an abortion we just created all of these issues that were keeping women back from having it all which spoiler alert you're going to see none of that is actually real so now decades later we are in 2025 long after this book was published long after this phrase was coined and this entire idea of women having it all has fallen apart we know now that it was a sham this is one of the reasons why so many women have turned their back on feminism I mean the feminists are no longer marching I literally when I was putting this episode together I had to look up and even see if there was a women's March that happened over Trump's inauguration because there has been no outrage whatsoever I mean they are defeated women are tired they have lost their Gusto they are not interested in this girl boss rally and cry anymore you know leanin feminism has been expended it's done that is why these TRD Aesthetics and creators like ballerina Farm are going viral because women want something different it is a response to what began in 1982 and women are done they're exhausted they're looking for something else they want something different because they know that this having it all idea isn't real and it doesn't work and all this has done has breed a generation and a type of woman who is anxious and angry and resentful and entitled and not fulfilled in the slightest which was expertly summed up in this piece by Christine Hassler who is a motivational speaker and an author because after years of trying to do it all and believing this lie and feeling less than for not being able to she said that she learned that by trying to do it all at once she was not doing anything at the level of 100% effort or enjoyment she said there was simply too much to do and accomplish to feel 100% about anything other than my stress level so in my 30s when each item on my checklist that I accomplished did not create a sense of fulfillment or relief but rather more longing I could not deny that having it all was perhaps not all it was cracked up to be I looked at women who seemingly had at all and I noticed that so many of them were so tired and overburdened that they didn't seem to be enjoying anything and when I looked at women who nurtured their natural preferences and their abilities had made choices to support those rather than chasing all of the shs in life they seemed peaceful and actually quite happy and these women seemed far more feminine to me I mean mic drop moment that is the mik drop moment of this entire episode it's 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their own ideas of what is right for women about what women should be doing and many of them not only believe that women shouldn't try to have it all and that they're not entitled to that and that it doesn't work but that they should only focus on being in the home being in the kitchen being a wife and mother because that is what is morally and biblically right these are the types of people who look at creators like me and Megan Kelly and even Ali Beth Stucky and say that we are the lingering results of feminism that we are still a net negative on society because we are women who work and I obviously brought that up to Ali Beth because she deals with that a lot especially on EX and this is how she examines that and responds to this there is a subset of people on the right who would say that women should not be fighting culture wars at all they should not have any work that takes them outside of the home that means that they're an undercover girl Bloss feminist that is leading everyone else into girl boss feminism we are talking about words we're not talking about physical prowess when it comes to talking that's actually something that women traditionally are pretty good at and something that is that that God can't equip women to do um at particular time so I'm not out there trying to wage any wars I am trying to use to the best of my ability one of the capabilities that God has given me and to Steward that well to say something that is true and hopefully to give him glory and I think all women and men are called to do that in a variety of ways and as Ellie Beth brought up just a couple seconds later it is actually a very new idea that women should solely focus on being in the home or being in the kitchen men and women have contributed to their same household economy through a variety of ways for a really long time I think it's actually very new this idea that in order to be a Proverbs 31 Woman or a Biblical mom that that literally only means being in the kitchen I think being in the kitchen is is great I love all of it I love domestic things but having the home and the family being the center of a family economy doesn't always just mean cleaning it cooking now if you guys have been watching me for a while then you probably know that I was not raised in the most religious home I was not raised in the most Christian home but you know Ali Beth's Point makes a lot of sense and so you know after talking with her I made my way on over to my Bible to take a look and it's ironic that so many of these people online these critics of women these critics of me and Ali Beth and Megan Kelly and all the other women that you see and that you might listen to that these critics use proverbs 31 to instruct women on their place in the home and out of the public sphere because it seems as though they missed the part where the Bible says that the woman the wife considers a field and buys it out of her earnings and she plants a Vineyard she sits about her work vigorously her arms are strong for her tasks she sees that her trading is profitable and that her lamp does not go out at night at another point it reads her husband is respected at The City Gate where he takes his seat among the Elders of the land she makes lined garments and sells them and supplies the merchants with sashes and that she speaks with wisdom and Grace and that she is respected by the community she is not just contributing to her home and her family but she's contributing to the community at large and that is what Ali Beth is arguing that a lot of these people are missing and so basically the argument that I am now making in this episode with you guys is that basically it seems like everyone seems to have these ideas and the opinions on what the perfect life is for women in 2025 I mean the left has pared one idea for years at this point we are all well accustomed to it and it didn't work women were not fulfilled by trying to juggle at all while primarily focusing on their careers and this idea was pushed and started by women who actually didn't want to have families in the first place so obviously it wasn't going to work they weren't juggling it in the first place and now we're dealing with a political right that has this new idea for women that really isn't rooted in historical truth I we should get into that in another episode that could be interesting but it's also an idea and a structure that is not attainable for many women especially in this economy and in the dating landscape and also in Ali Beth's mind she says that this is pushing a standard that Jesus himself did not set take a listen the online trend of saying that in order to be a Biblical woman your life has to look like this specifically it has to look like this aesthetic this kind of homesteading this many hours at home these kinds of jobs are okay but these kinds of jobs are not okay the outlines that are not in scripture I think that places a burden on women to reach a particular stand standard that Jesus did not set but if you truly look at Jesus's interactions with Pharisees the problem wasn't that they were too religious or that they were too holy but it's that they did not understand the heart of God's law they cared too much about the outward appearance and these arbitrary standards some of which they had come up with themselves that were completely outside of scripture and God wanted them to understand the heart behind his principles a lot of what I see in this trout world is really only about the superficial and that's never going to change someone's heart or life for the better and so now all of this this idea has grown to a magnitude where women online are shamed and mocked if they don't fit into these sers and it kind of reminds me of how the left would mock women who made the choice to stay at home like my mom was mocked 30 years ago the way that I was mocked when I was 15 years old and told my best friend that I desperately wanted to have kids one day and she gawked because she said that I was ruining any shot I had at ever having a career finding any kind of fulfillment outside of the home I mean it is like a NeverEnding cycle and it is so exhausting and in my mind we are completely focusing on the wrong things and we actually should go back to what Megan said and maybe take a closer listen to what she was trying to communicate because in my eyes what I want to be focusing on what I think that everyone should be focusing on man or woman regardless of your age or your situation is living a life that is in accordance with your values whatever they may be and that is up to you to decide I obviously have the ones that I live my life by that I think are more correct and healthy but again at the end of the day that's up to you and it's important to focus on that and then also focus on not compromising those values for immediate gratification or material success because at the end of the day when we all fall asleep at night it's only us that we have to contend with at the end of our Lives when we look back we have to know that we had Integrity with ourselves and that we lived a life of principles rather than cheapening ourselves or trying to fit in boxes set by other people who don't know our individual situations literally do not know us at all because that personal integrity being honest with yourself and living in accordance with your values that is fulfillment sleeping your way to success that's not fulfillment trying to juggle having it all and prioritizing a career when really that's not what you want but you're just trying to do it because women told you that that is what you should want and that you should be doing that that will not provide fulfillment as Christine Hassler explained chasing an aesthetic of traditional Womanhood that you see on X because people are telling you that that is what you should want also will not bring fulfillment because it's not coming from you and also finally I'm kind of running out of breath here but this is probably the most important point in the entire video is that no one no one on this Earth is going to be able to have it all that is simply not realistic and it's not just a female issue that goes for men as well life is made up of dreams and reality and sacrifices and priorities and you do not get everything you want in the exact way that you want at the time that you want there might be things that you want and you'll get them later in life I think about my mother-in-law who I just adore who sacrificed so much of her career to raise my husband and his siblings put her career on hold you know she worked part-time she did other things but she sacrificed success that other people were getting at a younger age and now in her 60s now that her kids are grown that they're in their 30s she has a career that she absolutely adores that she loves and this like third Act of her life she is so so happy and is so successful but she didn't get it when everybody else was or when they told her that she should be getting it and that's okay because your timeline does not need to be everyone else's you just need to be living in accordance with your values and what you believe to be good and correct and that will inevitably require sacrifices and it will require prioritizing what you believe to be important for example if you want that nine-to-five job if you want to climb the corporate ladder and that's what you want to focus on I'm sorry but you probably will not be able to have eight kids and be as engaged as other mothers who don't work or have more flexible jobs or work part-time things or work from home or whatever it may be just as if you want to have a children there are things in your life and career that you will have to sacrifice and say no to and that if you want to be that very engage mother to all eight of your children and spend those years of your life having children raising them you probably won't be able to have the 9 to5 and of course that does not mean that your life is going to be bad by any means I'm not saying that at all but it might not be perfect it might not be having it all or exactly how you envisioned in your perfect dream world and that's normal that is just part of real life and Ali Beth actually wrote an entire book based on this idea that you know you're not enough and that's okay and in her interview she said this one of the chapters of my book you're not and off is you're not entitled to your dreams and I was kind of raised believing some Prosperity Gospel things that if I do this if I pray for this if I ask this in the right way then God definitely will give me the kind of success that I want and I still see that believed among a lot of people that if I like say this basic like incantation do XYZ then I will finally get the relationship and the job that I want but none of those things are guaranteed we are not entitled to the things that we desire you may never have it all you may have a lot and there are a lot of things that you can be grateful for and it's okay to want a lot of things as long as they're like righteous desires but no we're never guaranteed to have everything and that's okay and in addition to that she continuously emphasized I think that this is so important that the values and the principles of your life must always be the driver I will always say pursuing money for the sake of money pursuing Fame for the sake of P Fame uh pursuing power for the sake of power is never going to end well so decide what you are going to pursue if you pursue Godly things like if you pursue the family and a stable marriage it those other things may get thrown in and that may be great but I promise if you pursue money and you pursue power for the sake of those things you will not also get the stable family thrown in so it's just a matter of what you want to prioritize and pursue and let God take care of the material stuff so the point of all of this the point of this entire episode what I've been talking about for the last 30 plus minutes all of this was to say that number one Megan Kelly was not attacking you she was not attacking women or men for that matter and I see personally I see her tweet as a form of empowerment she wasn't telling you that you can and should have it all and that you must go do it all and you must go get that apartment and you must do everything the way that she has done it but she's saying that if there are things that you dream of and that you hope for that you see happening in your life you do not have to compromise the things that you say are your core principles to get there which is at the time what we were seeing unfold on social media and then secondly what I wanted to talk about and this is for women more specifically there are a lot of people right now telling us who to be and who we are and what we should do and how we should be defined and what is right for us and at the end of the day that is up to you and your family and your principles to decide because like with every single human being on planet Earth you will have to prioritize and sacrifice and say no and then take risks but that doesn't mean that you won't have a full life no matter what people online say so focus on you focus on your values and I promise things will turn out all right